Child Custody False Allegations, Ugly Tactics, What does a Sincere Parent to do?

By: Ed Brooks

When an upstanding, trustworthy, hardworking parent get's surprised by an angry ex it can really upset you to your center. After all, all you ever vowed to do was be the best parent and partner you could be. When the union stopped you had no idea that you were going to be compelled to explore the boundaries of the freakish and twisted too.
After you've spent a long time with someone, shared happiness, sorrow, triumphs, and losses together, you may take for granted that even if you don't stick together at least you can work together for the best interest of your child. Maybe you didn't spend a long time married but still had a child with this person, the same level of trust gets presumed. And even if you only knew each other for a short time you never gave anyone cause to believe you were a horrifying person.
No matter which situation fits you, it all comes down to having the other parent falsely accuse you of things that could not be farther from the truth. Why would they do that? Because they are embittered, things are not going their way or even worse, things may be going well for you. If you think about it, I'm sure you will be able to uncover their motivation.
But why did they falsely accuse you not only of a thing you did not do, but something that they know you would never do? Simple, because it disturbs you and puts you off of your "doing well" streak. You see the best defense is a good offense. If you are busy struggling for yourself, there is no way for you to continue to show what a great parent you are.
So what's does an trustworthy parent to do? Easy, get back on offense. Your offense changes from talking about what a excellent parent you are, to confronting the charge. You see, courts, mediators, evaluators, and Child Protective Services have all been around long enough to see this before you and your ex came along. You just remind them of it.
The first thing you do is simple, deny the charge. No need to be fancy, just a matter of fact "no, not me". Then you back that up with, "you know we are in a high conflict custody battle? Apparently, the case is not going their way". Then question why this never came up before. Speak about all the minor things that the other parent contacted you about before. How could they worry about all those minute details if this was true? Realize that you are now in a serious battle and document everything. Time is your ally.
If you are high conflict there will be a reluctance from the courts about allowing joint custody. Because of this you will need to educate yourself about parallel parenting. This is different from co-parenting. Educate yourself about it and hold to it.
Now, armed with the knowledge that you were making progress, the fact that you can document this was never a problem, and the knowledge of parallel parenting, you can use the false allegation and turn it to your favor. That is the power an honest parent has against evil tactics.

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Ed Brooks knows just how rocky a High Conflict Child Custody fight can be. Ed has created a site where parents can get advice on how to handle all aspects of a high conflict Child Custody battle. If you want to learn more about handling False Allegations issues you can find it here.