Should I have sex?

Other things to think about before you have sex:

• Is this something I really want to do at this point in my life?
• Am I emotionally ready for all the feelings a sexual relationship brings up?
• What when I get pregnant? Am I ready to deal with that possibility?
• Am I ready to be responsible for birth control and preventing Sexually Transmitted Diseases?
• Am I being pressured into having sex even though it's not what I want to do?
• Is having sex OK with my values or am I going to feel bad afterwards?

For more reasons teens say yes or no, visit Sex on the Brain.

Ways to Avoid Sex

If you decide not to have sex, do not put yourself in a situation where it may happen. The human sex drive is strong, so here are many ways to avoid getting out-of-control:

• Be sure to hang out with friends who believe it's OK to wait to have sex.
• Date several people and hang out with different groups of people.
• Be certain to go out with a group of friends rather than only your date.
• Be aware of common lines that someone may use to pressure you—and do not fall for them.
• Be sure to have a plan for what you'll say and do in case someone pressures you.
• Be certain to stick up for your friends when they are being pressured to have sex.
• Do not get into heavy make out sessions – it will be hard to stop.
• If you are kissing, and you believe things have gone too far, go do something else. Get up and go be around other people.
• Say "no" and mean "no" when that is how you feel.
• Do not worry about hurting someone’s feelings. If your date really cares about you, they will respect your wishes.
• Be certain to think of all that could happen – including a Sexually Transmitted Disease and pregnancy.
• Be certain to take care of yourself. Are you prepared with birth control and condoms?
• Always carry your cell phone or money for a cab in case you feel uncomfortable.
• Be ready to call your mom, dad or a friend to pick you up when you need to leave a date.
• Never feel obligated to "pay someone back" with sex in return for an expensive date or gift.
• Do not drink or use drugs – you may end up doing things you would never do when you were not drinking.

Common Lines to Pressure you into sex

Here are many lines people use to get sex. What would you say when someone tried one of these on you? Knowing what you'll say ahead of time helps.

• Everybody’s doing it.
• Show me you love me.
• But, I LOVE you!
• Please let me share this with you.
• I will stop whenever you say.
• If you loved me, you’d prove it by doing it with me.
• I will break up with you when you do not have sex with me.
• Nothing will happen. I promise.
• Sex isn't a big deal.
• It is OK, I have got a condom.
• What are you waiting for?
• You mean you are still a virgin? What are you, a prude?
• I will love you forever.
• It will strengthen our relationship.
• No one will find out about this.
• But I have done it with everyone I have ever been in a relationship with.
• If you do not have sex with me, I will find someone who will.
• I have been tested and I’m clean.
• Come on do not you find me attractive?

How To Say No To Sex

So what when things have gone a little too far? How do you say "NO" and let your partner know you mean it without making him so mad he stops liking you or spreads gossip to all your friends?

What to do:

• Do not be a tease. Let your date know how you feel before you go too far.
• Be confident. Show you mean it and keep saying no till they get it. Make sure your body language is saying no too. Stand up strait and make eye contact.
• Do not be angry - be firm, move away, get up and do something so the mood changes.
• You do not have to explain, but you can give a reason when you want to – such as
o I have made up my mind to wait
o I am not ready for this
o I do not want to get involved

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